Wife (26F) feels I (30M) went on a date with a co worker.
This past weekend my wife was out of town for a bachellorette party, and on Friday I took some co workers to a hockey game since we have season tickets and I thought it would be nice to treat them to a game since my wife wouldn't be able to go. So Friday it was myself, co worker 1 (25F) and co worker 2 (29M) who were able to go. We all planned to take the train to the game but at 4 pm CW2 hadn't seen the texts on meeting there so he passed on the train and met us at the game.
So it was just me and CW1 on the train to the game where we met CW2 and got food and drinks across from the stadium before the game. Before the game I noticed my wife had texted me "Have fun at the game!" to which I didn't reply as we were running late after eating and rushing over to get to the game. Around the 2nd period I look at my phone and she sent another text shortly after her first one that said "...hello?" at which point I texted her back saying I was at the game and it was a really good game. Fast forward to end of the game and my coworkers wanted to hang out some more since we all were having a fun night. So we went to get a couple of beers and at around 12am we called it a night as we all needed to go home.
Since we took the train it was only Co worker 1 and I on the train. So since it was a hour long train ride back we were talking about our relationships (CW1 is engaged), work, sports, etc. Towards the end of the train ride we were talking about how hungry we were so I made a comment about how I was going to go home and eat an ice cream sandwich (in my mind it was funny and random) so we say our good byes and I drive home 20 minutes away. When I get home I really do get an ice cream sandwich and so I thought it was a funny continuation of the joke so I took a picture and sent it to CW1 wih the caption "yesssss" and that was all. It was 1:20am and we were both getting home from the game so I knew I wasn't waking her up or anything with the text.
Go to Sunday and my wife gets home from her trip. We decide to watch some shows together at which point she asks what I was looking at on my phone? I told her I was looking at some Red Wing boots which I had found out had a sell. Wanting her opinion I had her my phone at which point she looked quickly but then switched to looking at my messages. At this point all hell breaks loose as she sees the text to CW1 and accuses me of going around behind her back and sending inappropriate messages to girls while she's away. We get into a huge argument and I acquiesce that yes I see how from her perspective it can look inappropriate and apologize to her.
This morning she sends me a text saying how she thought about it more and how to her it feels like this was more of a date with my co worker because we were drinking and then rode a train back together to our cars alone and she was upset I would take her to where we had our first date and how the whole situation is inappropriate.
I'm feeling extremely confused. Especially after the text this morning. I recognize that the 1 in the morning text could be seen as inappropriate but at the same time I feel there was context to the text and that our other co-worker was with us the entire night so it's not like it was us two alone drinking together.
She also just texted me saying I need to find somewhere else to stay while she finds us counseling.
I don't know what to do, it feels like this is getting blown way out of proportion and starting to spiral out of control.
Edit: Wife is 28 and we've been married 3 years now.
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