AITA For not wanting to work extra overtime so my co-workers with kids don't have to?
So I recently started a job at a new company as an engineer. As a consulting firm our hours very much depend on clients needs and can result in a lot of overtime and out of town buisness trips.
I was talking to my boss the other day and he mentioned that we may be doing a lot of work out of town in the next couple weeks and he said that because I am the only one without kids I will be the one doing almost all of the extra work. He said it would be unfair to send people with family's away.
When he first said this to me it kind of made sense and I went about my day but I have been thinking about it and I think it is super unfair. Just because I have chosen to live my life a certain way does not mean that my time is any less valuable outside of the office.
I wouldn't be so offended if it was a "you're new so here's extra work." Or if I only had to do some of this extra overtime and out of town trips and I could split it with coworkers who are equal with me on the totem pole, but I am offended that I am being stuck with all of it due to my relationship and life status. My boyfriend, parents, friends, and siblings would love to see me more often but apparently that is irrelevant?
I was telling a friend of mine who has a family about my dilemma and they told me that I was being kind of a bitch because the people with kids should spend time with them, and while I agree that if you have children you should try and spend a lot of time with them, but that isn't really on me.
Even typing this I feel like I sound like a terrible person. What do you think?
Edit: some of my grammar errors were bugging me!
Edit 2: For people who have asked, I am hourly, I will not be salary until I am eligible to get my P.E. license in 2 years. Salaried professional engineers get to basically do what they want at the office which I don't mind, they earned that.
That being said while I am new to the company I have been in the field for a couple years and still pull seniority within the company over some people, i.e. I got my own office instead of a cubicle, I train people, etc. The people who are getting less hours to spend time with their family's are other EIT similar to age and work status/level as me (some younger)
Edit 3: I don't plan on making a scene or a big deal about this besides some internet complaining and complaints to friends. I love my job for all other aspects besides some of my bosses less than desirable comments. I am not insensitive, which is why I questioned my stance, I understand that kids get sick, special events in your kids life happen and such and I would be happy to cover something. Esspecially if a co worker asked me, but I just get upset when I feel like my commitments are not being validated due to my lack of children. I will work reasonable overtime and jobs to further my career, but I will also be sure any important weekend or travel conflicts of mine are expressed to my boss.
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